High emotional intelligence (EQ) is a greater predictor of success than high IQ

Development IconDevelopment of Gifted Children

Research has shown that the size, processing speed and overall efficiency of the gifted child’s brain is markedly different from that of a neuro-typical peer. There is much research being done to understand how and why the brain of a gifted children works differently. By definition, gifted children are asynchronous in their development so they tend to excel in some functional areas and lag in others. This uneven development challenges us as parents because we must respond to our children at the emotional age they are acting at any given moment but we must do so in language at their intellectual age.

Areas where most gifted children excel are memorization, understanding complex patterns and learning new skills and information with very few exposures. Areas where gifted children tend to lag in development include executive function skills (time management, organization, completing projects), the ability to accurately read social cues and in emotional regulation. Many researchers believe gifted children experience “overexcitabilities” that cause them to feel more deeply (positively and negatively) which may explain their intense reactions, mood swings and heightened sensitivities. 


Great reads about the development of gifted children…

The Gifted Brain (GRO-Gifted Research and Outreach, Inc.)

Executive Function 101 (National Center for Learning Disabilities)

What are Dabrowski’s Five Overexcitabilities in Gifted Children? (VeryWell)

Highly Gifted Children and Peer Relations (Davidson Institute)

How to Build Emotional Intelligence in Your Child (Huffington Post)

Is Your Child Anxious Because They are Gifted? (Anxiety Free Child Program)